International Marriage: Enjoy Typical Chinese Family Ties
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Derrick: Aged 35, from America, a language teacher

Wen: Aged 27, from Zhanjiang of Guangdong, an office assistant in an international company in Guangzhou

Having lived in Guangzhou for five more years and a father of two beautiful girls, Derrick and his family reside at Clifford Estates, one and half hour's commute to the school where he works. His two daughters, ages 4 and one and a half, are cared for full time by his in-laws.

Derrick is living a typical Chinese family life, which most foreign spouses find difficult to get used to, especially for those emphasizing the importance of personal space.

Last month, a micro blog post that warned of difficulties for Westerners who marry Chinese women spurred more than three million comments online, saying marrying a Chinese woman means marrying her entire family, having no privacy and being subject to many questions.

"We have all been living together for a few years now, and our daily life is fairly routine at this point," said Derrick who added that everyone in the family fills a certain role or job, and he appreciates both his in-laws' hard work with the children and home.

"My father-in-law typically prepares all meals for the family other than mine," said Derrick "I also cook but no one else likes western style food. If I prefer something different for myself I can do so, for example, making meals, but generally don't try to interfere with their ideas or the way they do something."

"We estimate to move to America within two years unless I successfully obtain a permanent residence card in China, that may convince us to stay longer, although I read online that it is exceptionally rare to get one," said Derrick who is facing a dilemma among expatriates who are considering long-term residence and how to get a "green card".

"Well, next spring I will have been married for five years," said Derrick. "From what I understand about the English language version of the government regulations, this should be sufficient to apply for [a green card]." "If it is possible I will try it", said Derrick


Editor: Jecey
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